My Well-Being

Whether you have experienced a divorce or have had to suffer through the death of a spouse, there are some hard feelings and emotions you may have had to cope with. Feelings of loneliness, despair, failure, and sadness are all accompanying emotions of broken or torn apart marriages. There was probably a time when you just weren't ready to move on. Perhaps the pain was too much, or you were afraid of having to go through some of those same emotions again. After working through your feelings, you may be ready to move on, but just aren't sure how. There is no need to rush into another relationship, and doing so could be a bad choice, but there is no reason for you to feel alone. The following are a few small steps you can take as you feel ready so you can find love again.

• Let your friends and family know that you are ready to date again.
  You may know someone who has been dying to set you up with someone, but they did not want to be invasive. People who love you will have your best interest in mind, so that is often a great resource for finding someone to date.
• Start attending social gatherings and make an effort to visit with other people.
  Whether that means going to church more often, participating in a community class or club, or just spending more time at a busy park, put yourself out there so that people see that you are ready to visit and form new relationships.
• Try an online dating network.
  There are many different social networking sites on the internet, some of which are dedicated to people who are single and looking for a relationship. You will be in control of your profile and who you communicate with, and because it is online, it is sometimes easier to say "no" when you don't want to meet someone.

While these are only a few ideas, they could be just the right moves for you to make when you are ready to move beyond the pain of divorce or death of a spouse. Think about your options and decide what you feel comfortable with before you make a move.